David Allen is my new hero, today I started to become overwhelmed with my role within my friendships and how I allow myself to be obligated to individuals that I don't intended to feel or be obligated to me. I love attempting to be folks all, but when I need a break it seems to be at the worst times, its when people need me most. I work hard to make others happy and not enough to make me happy. This is something that is quite clear to everyone that is deeply rooted in my social life and personal space. However, these are the same individuals that I allow to take advantage of my need to be everyone's superhero, but the fact remains I am no superhero and will make mistakes along the way, say the wrong thing, forget something important, become to exhausted to do something, etc.
That is were David Allen comes in; Allen argues that the real challenge is not managing your time but maintaining your focus: "If you get too wrapped up in all of the stuff coming at you, you lose your ability to respond appropriately and effectively. Remember, you're the one who creates speed, because you're the one who allows stuff to enter your life."
I need to take a step back and let things unfold as they may. I can no longer force myself to be something I am not. I have created the chaos and obligated influence that my love ones hold me so accountable for. I will reestablish myself as someone that has to say NO and understand that if NO means the end of a relationship than so be it. I am to preserve myself for my existence and the passion that I have to make the world better for not only myself but those I love and those I have not and may not ever meet in this life.
As Mr. Allen states" you lose your ability to respond appropriately and effectively" and all energy and time would be lost in my passion to aid in the world's positive change if it is done both in a sloppy, unmotivated, poor fashion.
Daily lessons to make myself a better person and my completely intended self.
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